Getting Out of Your Own Way
It’s easy to get caught up in the stresses of life when everything around you is constantly on the move, dealing with the same routine day-in and day-out and the feel of never ending responsibilities piling up, pulling you in multiple different directions. This cycle of life sometimes causes you to overlook the positives while tunnel visioning in on the negatives, causing you to unintentionally blocking your blessings.
Words are spells and your thoughts create your reality. It’s important to realize how your thoughts, actions, habits and attitude can stand in the way of your hopes and dreams. When you are standing in your own way, you are not on the frequency of receiving the things you really want out of your life. It’s very apparent that life tends to put us all through unavoidable situations but that does not mean you have to roll with that.
We all deal with unpleasant situations, self-doubt, pain, worry- the list goes on, but there is always another side to these experiences. We decide how we react, we decide if we will allow negative thoughts or bad situations to hold us back. It’s never easy to just “move on” from a situation, however, not every situation deserves our attention. Emotions and feelings do not last forever, they are always changing and getting out of your own way begins with changing the way you view your negative situations.
Afterall, changing your life starts with changing your mindset! Instead of focusing on the negatives of the situation, look to see the hidden positives or opportunities within. Bad situations happen every day, but that does not mean your attitude has to follow. Focus on what you have to be thankful for, look for the beauty in everything that crosses your path by living in the present and focusing on the things you can control.
I know we all have high standards for ourselves, goals we want to reach but there is no such thing as perfection. Sometimes when you set the bar too high for yourself, it causes you to miss out on the smaller pleasures in life. Do not attach your self-worth to how others perceive your performances and realize that mistakes will happen but that does not mean that one mistake will ruin all that you have worked towards. Sometimes things do not go as planned and that is more than okay. Be patient with and continue to speak kindly to yourself.
Sometimes we stand in our own way because we are afraid of failing, afraid that we are not enough but failing is unavoidable and yes, will happen. What’s important is what you do after you fail. That matters the most. Contemplate what's the worst that can happen, weigh your options, if you must but It’s important to distinguish your worries from actual facts.
You are your own worst enemy and you stand in your own way when you allow your thoughts and doubts to stop what you’re doing, holding you back from the things you really want to accomplish. Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith and trust that you know what you’re doing, even when you feel as if you don’t.
"It's better to have tried and failed than to live life wondering what would've happened if I had tried."
⁃ Brey’ ✨